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Are Biofilms contributing to your chronic infection? – OHR #479

Microscopes are used to view biofilms
Microscopes are used to view biofilms

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Why are Biofilms Important? Biofilms can form on various surfaces within the human body, including the skin, teeth, and various organs. They can contribute to developing chronic infections and are notoriously resistant to conventional treatments.

Dark field microscopy video

Video: Dark Field Microscopy

Dark Field Microscopy is an amazing diagnostic procedure, that was first created in Germany in the late 1800's. Dr. Minkoff learned this back in 1978 and has been using it ...

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A Message from Dr. Minkoff

My colleague and friend is a family doc in California.

He is a brilliant essayist and recently he penned the following.

I find it profound in its simplicity and truth. It’s written for guys, but I know that this truth goes both ways.

I hope you enjoy this…

You stood at the altar, utterly convinced.

Your friends warned you. They told you that you were about to exchange your freedom for sleepless nights, dirty diapers, drudgery of work, weekends full of “honey do’s” and the ceaseless braying of children.

You saw the burdens of family life before you. You’ve seen it break some men and cause others to run. Yet, some it turn into Kings. And, you felt happy–even eager–to shoulder that harness.

For this woman in white before you… this beautiful, angelic, adoring bride… she fired you as no one ever done before.

With HER by your side… with her love, her adoration and her BELIEF shoring you up, what could you NOT do?

What burdens could you NOT withstand?

Her love had created the stage on which all that was good and strong and noble in you played out effortlessly… and you married her, in part, to go on feeling this fire that her love lit within you.

But then, as the blunt force trauma of parenthood fell full upon you, grinding on for weeks, and months, and years… you felt a troubling ebb.

This well-spring of inspiration, this queen-inspired fire… it began to fade.

The cooling continued, faster and faster, until at last you looked to your wife with anger:

Where were the tears of love and adoration and belief she once gave you?

Where was that lifeblood you had counted on?

Yet, the problem is not with your woman. That is where you are mistaken . . .

It is with your flawed belief that inspiration and action is somehow her responsibility.

When you place the burden of your inspiration on your wife, you give her a power she is neither willing nor fit to wield.

You should never have made her the keeper of your flame.

The queen DOES NOT make the king. That is the LIE you’ve been sold. That is the LIE that four generations of men have been dickered.

Stop expecting your wife to inspire you.

Stop looking for outside coronation. The king of England is wrong.

You MUST be the king who creates the queen.

Gaze into her eyes.

Listen when she speaks, with both ears, and with both eyes.

Kiss her deeper, hold her longer. Lavish time, gifts, jewels, clothing, words of affection.

Create a current of love and vision and reckless giving that sweeps her up and carries her along, rapt with anticipation and emotion.

Whether or not she returns that love – it does not matter.

Here is the SECRET . . . It is the act of loving her that truely fires you, NOT its reciprocation.

Any love or adoration she returns is immaterial: the essential magic has already happened inside you. The fire has already been lit.

“Why would I kiss that mouth?” you say. “Why would I gaze into those cold, bitter eyes? How could I treat as queen this woman who sneers and scorns so unbearably?”

And, THAT my friend, is THE DOUBLE-BIND that has been holding your relationship, your marriage, your kingship, hostage.

This love, this respect, this adoration you long for her to give you . . . it is not hers to give but for YOU TO CREATE within her.

Mold her into her best, highest self. Not with silence or criticism or ultimatums, but with acts of imagination and love.

No matter how deep your disillusionment, it is the only way . . . you, the king, must create the queen.

For the next 24 hours, suspend your grief and despair and anger and LOVE HER as though today is the last day of her life.

Only then will you have the queen you’ve been longing for.

Only then will you know the old heat.

Do not look to her.

It is YOU who must re-light the forges. And, re-light them, you must.

It is YOU who must finally decide he is the king. 

To Your Coronation,

Adam Nally, DO

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Have a great week.

Dr. David I Minkoff, MD